I cannot believe it's 2 weeks since I have blogged! Time does get away from us doesn't it? The weeks just seem to pass by so quickly! Last weekend, Rene' and I spent the weekend away from it all...just he and I! I know...can you believe that? We talked about it and realized that was the 1st time we have done that in over 20 years! That is just terrible! But we made a promise to each other, to spend more time together and try to reconnect. You would think after 37 years, you would be really connected...but we weren't. Life happened. We have been through so much in the last 20 years. We became 2 different people after Joshua died...it was a gradual thing, but we really became 2 different people. After the death of a child, your whole world is turned upside down and you each deal with it differently. Statistics show that the majority of parents who lose a child, end up in divorce. I won't lie, it came so close to that so many times. But we stuck it out "for the kids". THAT is also not always the right reason to stay together. I often times questioned that. I only saw that Rene' had become so distant and unhappy and never fully dealt with his grief. After really thinking about it, he probably thought the same things about me. So we just dealt with what was and pushed it aside, thinking maybe if we didn't acknowledge it, it would just go away. Well, it didn't just go away. It festered, like a horrible disease. What a disservice to both of us...to our children. You know the old saying, if I could go back....well IF I could, things would be handled so differently. Anyway, we had a wonderful weekend...just US...we talked, we laughed, we cried and we reconnected. I am not saying it was a miracle and all is wonderful...but I saw the man that I fell in love with 38 years ago resurface...and I know why we made it through those hard times. I couldn't be happier....and I am pretty sure he feels the same way. So much time wasted...but still so much time ahead of us to enjoy our lives. And that is exactly what we plan on doing!
Life is good....grab every moment you can!
Look at that good looking couple wow!
Pumpkin Crunch Cake
15 oz can pumpkin; or 2 cups fresh pumpkin puree
1-12 oz can evaporated milk
1 1/2 cups sugar
1 teaspoon cinnamon
1 box cake mix ( spice cake,yellow, butter or white)
1 cup melted butter
1 cup chopped walnuts or pecans (optional)
Mix the pumpkin, evaporated milk, sugar, eggs, and cinnamon.
Spread mixture evenly in a lightly greased 9 x 13 baking pan.
Sprinkle dry cake mix evenly over pumpkin mixture. Sprinkle the nuts over the top of the cake mix. Pour the melted butter evenly over the top of everything. Do not stir.
Bake at 350 degrees for 50 to 60 minutes or until top is browned.
Let cool before serving.
Recipe borrowed from
Recipe borrowed from